Vol. 32: The Validity of All Things Nonsensical

pardon me if the harshness of the words to come intrude, embarrass or offend the psyche of the weak minded individuals who may read this.

a few days ago, i came across this persons profile (on myyearbook.com) and her status said something along the lines of: "no more bs. im on my grown woman status!" now at first i kinda blew it off, because i see that kind of fuckery all the time. but then it started to bug me. i mean if you're grown, why do you need to broadcast it to the world? nevermind the fact that half the people who bothered to look at your status simply did so because you were a friend online at the time. they really dont know you, nor do they care enough about you or your grown-ness (or lack thereof) to trouble themselves with the praise and adoration that you so selfishly seek. so in essence, she was displaying it for strangers who didnt know or cared to know about who she was or what she stood for. sooooo...my conclusion is that she needed to say it to make herself feel better about her shallow existence.

and so me being the overthinker that i am, i started to apply that whole situation to life: peoples statuses of facebook/myspace, pictures, and things i see and hear out in the streets of this thriving metropolis. and i realized...this self affirmation is not a plague that infects this poor, not-so-grown person...its a national crisis. its something that people feel the need to do so that they feel as if they have some sort worth in what appears to be a bleak and dismal existence. the people i feel the most pity for are couples.

how many people do you see everyday who just absolutely have hold hands no matter where they go? like the moment they touched for the first time they were forever bound together and even the slightest disconnection will result in a fatal heart attack, stroke, and body racking seizure... all at once. or my personal favorite: how many people have friends who have whole albums dedicated to their current? now thats all well and fine but tell me: are most of those pictures taken by those two individuals? here's a news flash: if you have 50 pictures in an album, and 49 of them were taken by either you or your partner, that means....NO ONE ELSE GIVES A SHIT! having 10 or 11 is fine. i would do the same thing...actually, i have done the same thing, but 50+ is just excessive.

oh and lets not even get into the public acts. you know, i dont understand why some females feel that they always have to be in competition with each other, especially when they are out with they're "man". do you really have to spend an hour and a half getting ready to go drive to and sit in a dark theater for 2 hours? ohhhh...its because you want to make a statement that your boyfriend chose you, and you're overthinking the fact that if you dont look like a model at all times, he's gonna run off to the next pretty girl he sees. let me make something extremely, horribly clear: most guys would rather you go to the movies or out to the mall in sweats and a t-shirt then to get dressed up so you can show off and show out for all the other girls who might dare look at him; just so they know what they have to work for. if a guy wanted to go after another girl, he would. its as simple as that. you have to work hard for a guys love (sometimes harder than others) but once you have it, it's not going anywhere, and if he stops loving you once you start dressing down, then that means he really didnt love you to begin with. dont dress like you're going to the club if youre not at the club. matter of fact...dont dress like youre going to the club if you ARE at the club because no guy will date a club girl. NO GUY. you get dressed up just so you can say you had the most guys after you. again...self validation.

public validation is something that people feel the need to display to the world that says they are different; they are real, genuine, or know enough about life that they don't need anything from anyone, and to prove this to themselves, they make sure that it is seen, heard, and known by the world...whether the world cares or not. think about all of the people you see in your day to day lives. all the couples, emos, homosexuals, metrosexuals, rockers, preps, and ne'er do wells. many of them dress a certain way, act a certain way, and try to make the statement that they are unique from everyone else in society. if you are so different and unique, why are you dressed and acting like everyone else around you? why do you wear skinny jeans, and play the guitar? why do you wear bright colors and 5 million bracelets? why do you give the evil eye to the waitress who just asks your date what he wants to drink? its because you are insecure about who you are. if the things you say and display to those around you were real, they wouldnt need to be said because it would already be known. you wouldnt need to nuke your statuses saying how much you love your bf/gf. if they really knew, it would be because of your actions; not the petty insecure words you post every two seconds in order to help you and him/her feel better about the sham of a relationship you have. so my advice is this. if you want to be unique, just be normal. dont try to be a trendy, popular gimmick just so everyone else notices you.

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till next time