Vol. 25: Seniority

i understand that parents are supposed to be the authority. i understand that they are there for guidance. i understand the level of tough love that needs to be shown. what i dont understand however is why they have to be so fucking annoying. not even just parents; the entire generation

this entire week, ive been at the mercy of my mother. not just because of the holiday, but because of this stupid ass party. i havent talked to anyone, seen anyone (other than gee gee who i saw at church) or hung out with anyone. ive cleaned, moved, and bitten my tongue more than a few hundred times this week. and all i asked was to be able to go to just one of the several parties/clubs that i was promoting. but when the time came, and after i drove all over the place im met with "oh you cant take the car". now i know about the insurance and all that, but if it was such a big deal, why did was i made to drive all over the damn south side runnin her errands. if the insurance was such an issue, and had i known that i was gonna get stiffed, i wouldve told her to do it her self. but i didnt and now i gotta look at my friends go to the places that i told them about.

now i dont do things because i expect a reward. i like doing nice things because i am a nice person. but the thing is, i would like to enjoy my time with my friends and let her have her party with hers. but nope, i was forced to sit in a house with 20 or more middle aged people. all of whom knew what was going on and didnt say a goddamn thing in my defense. not even as a common courtesy to a fellow human being.

i just really cant wrap my head around it. we're always told to act mature and to grow up and take responsibility, but when the time comes, we arent allowed to. now i was willing to fill up her gas tank-- key phrase: fill it up..not just put in what i used (and this goes for my sisters car as well) but it was still a no. i just want to be met with a definitive concept. dont tell me to act like an adult if i wont be treated like one. i survived a whole shitload of hell in my life, so i think i am qualified to know what the best outcome of a situation is. and im not just saying that because im mad or because i think i know everything...i have a good head on my shoulders, more so than i can say for some of her friends. and yet i am continuously cast aside for others. i mean im 20 years old. do u understand how humiliating it is to have to say to ur people "my mommy said i cant go out." the fuck? what am i..4?

ill be damned if that happens again. i hope everyone here has enjoyed stepping all over me and using me for the last twenty years because by this time next year that opportunity will be gone...because i will be in Charlotte. my mind is made up. and u know what? i really dont give a fuck who has an objection to it.

till next time
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Alex Banks Fleites (Loyola Academy) wrote
at 3:02am on November 30th, 2008
what????!!!?? U knw u dont belong in charlotte, ur juss pretending you do b/c u want to see ur fairy tale come true..be realistic, stay here
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Dianne Wolfe (Loyola Chicago) wrote
at 12:28pm on November 30th, 2008
AMEN!!!
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Jessica 'Chulita' Clay (Spelman) wrote
at 9:10pm on November 30th, 2008
whoa whoa whoa........i agree that there needs to be a lil freedom here, but let's take a step back and analyze the situation...
numero uno: booooyyyy...i WISH you would've even THUNK (yes, thunk) about tellin yo mama to run her own errands!!! you musta lost yo micky ficky mind!!!!!!! are you tryna get KILT?!?!?!!!
numero two: imma have to agree with alex times three on the moving to charlotte thing. besides your boo...WHAT THE HELL is in charlotte?!...as katt says, don't worry, i'll wait....
numero tres: story of my life...i don't think anyone can have parents more strict than mine...{{to all the literal losers who have nothing else to do but analyze what i'm writing: it's an EXAGGERATION!! :p}}...but anywho, that's life donavan. the only way you can prove that you're grown and stop having to listen to what they say is to move out. you seem to think charlotte is the solution but it's all the same. just leave. don't be bitter about it. i mean it is her house and i'm pretty sure it's her car...sooo....yea, that's my 2 cents...take it or leave it.
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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 9:26pm on November 30th, 2008
taken completely out of context. but what else can i expect from u karma. not much obviously lol so to answer ur numerous questions and alexs:

1. i didnt tell her. but just the same i seriously considered it. u cant tell me u never had those thoughts before.

2. UNC is there. im not just going to be with ashley. i love her but thats a serious step to take, especially if something happens. im not goin there simply to live a fairy tale happily ever after fantasy. im going there to learn. ashley is a bonus.

3. be happy u have two. i get an exxagerated amount of aggression from the one that i have. and my mama is way tougher than ur parents are on u

4. charlotte is not the solution. moving out is. if i could convince ashley otherwise i would stay here and move into a lovely condo. im not being bitter. if i was bitter i would have moved out today. im just fed up with people, including ashley, feeling the need to take advantage of my weak spots when its available.

fair enough?
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 10:41pm on November 30th, 2008
I don't think you should move to Charlotte. THERE. I said it.

YES move out
NO don't move to Charlotte.

Right now i'm speaking off the top of my head, but I am SPEAKING how i feel. DON'T MOVE TO CHARLOTTE. I'm sorry but I will say it and, sorry ash you might just have to hate me for this one, but I think you two should compromise. Donovan you're moving there because you want her in your life JUST THAT BAD... but you have to think and consider the negatives too. You say that UNC is there. LOVELY. there's a UNC in CHAPEL HILL, GREENSBORO and I think like DURHAM or Somewhere else, but my point is that there are other UNC's and other great schools in North Carolina. Hell, there are great schools back in Florida, aren't there? You ultimately WOULD be moving to Charlotte FOR ASHLEY. Now, about the negatives. God forbit if you guys don't go as planned for whatever reason. THEN WHAT? Yeah you say that UNC is there, UNC is just a... "it just so happens to be there" type of thing. and "it just so happens" that Ashley wants to go there too. So basically I guess in a longwinded way, i'm saying that I don't think you realize it, but in the long run, you are setting yourself up for this same situation, but this time you are married/dating the culprit. If things were "different" than the aforementioned conundrum, would YOU be the only one always bending and contorting and giving up your comfort spot so that she could be comfortable 100% of the time?

(side note... sorta: Stepford Wives... WATCH IT)

I'm not saying that she does deserve it, but i'm saying that the key to a happy relationship is sometimes submission to the desires and needs of the other. It can't always be Donny give and ashie recieves. Eventually you're going to either A: become soft like baby shit or B: grow tired of it and eventually start hating ashie :( we don't want that, so basically we have to treat this while there is still time. How do you guys deal when it's a situation where you have to give up...
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 10:52pm on November 30th, 2008
your comfort zone for the other person? From the only side that's available to me (donovan) i hear that he says he always has to contort. This does NOT mean I am on his side, but simply that this is all I know. I really would like to hear your side and how you feel Ash. I understand somewhat, but I hope and pray you aren't taking this how I in my younger (and age 17) days would'vve handled this situation. It just so happens that I had a relationship with an older person too when I was 17 and like I think I stated before, It was a HUGE mind game, I admit, I led him on BIG TIME, I CONSTANTLY played with his feelings and basically once my parents found out (cuz I wasn't really allowed to have a boyfriend i guess...) they MADE me break up with him. I been wanted to do it, but I never did because I mentally wanted him around, but not physically... it was really crazy and weird but basically he ended up all like "I thought you loved me, stand up to your parents and tell them you wanna be with me, don't listen to them" cuz basically he thought I was breaking up with him cuz my parents was making me. OK now it was PARTLY cuz of that, and PARTLY cuz I was sick of him. He was mentally soft and that was a turn off. So he stalked me in the form of calling my dad and my aunt and ever phone I ever called him from and coming to my house (mind you my aunts were in town because this all happened during my high school graduation. me and him had been dating for almost a year. May 21, 2007 would have been a year but i broke up with him may 20th lmfao fuckin loser, DAMN i hate him...) Basically I don't want you to be mentally soft Donovan. To basically kiss a person's ass and let everything be their way as he did with me, you could fall into the same... "trap" not that she is playing mind games, I'm sorry I cannot say what she is doing, but i'm basically laying all those cards out on the table. For the longest time you keep hearing me make "references" to the bad relationship I had...
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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 10:57pm on November 30th, 2008
hmm. how this go from me bein pissed at my mom to bein about ashley? lol

whatever, stay tuned for the CoR. that im posting right....NOW
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Jessica 'Chulita' Clay (Spelman) wrote
at 10:58pm on November 30th, 2008
oh donavan, so simple minded...
&& imma need you to quit always being on the defense when i disagree with things you make open to the facebook world!! lol
& i especially can't see how something can be out of context when it's a direct response to what you've written, but whatever. the point is...
1. never said that you told her that. you're not that rere. i mean you are, but that is too much...even for you...
2. ok when did UNC pop up in the pic? what happened to U of I? and i said i agreed with him on the moving to charlotte part. we both know there are no fairy tales in life...wasn't talkin about that part. i mean you do you, but for someone who loves a busy city...charlotte just seems a bit more low key for your personality.
3. two doesn't always mean life's better. and have you met my parents? ha!
4. like i said, it's all the same. doesn't matter where you go...just go. as for ashley...she's probably just scared and looking out for her own future. just like you wouldn't move there just for her, she has to be as sure about her opportunities in the chi as you would need to be about UNC.
and that last little paragraph suggests bitterness... but anyways i get your point...kinda...except for the ashley taking advantage of your weaknesses...but that's ya business.....

fair enough :)
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 11:00pm on November 30th, 2008
but basically (damn i've said basically like 12 times...) this is the horrible ordeal i when through and when I see whats happening I see what potentally COULD be going on. She's the girl of your dreams, as I was to him, but yet she tells you she loves you, as I did to him, and i SOMETIMES showed it i guess... and i think she does to you sorta, i guess... and you say she has been unfaithful before...and i cheated on him... kinda. I kissed 3 different people in one week... LMFAO good times. (Side note, i havent had a good kiss in forever, DAMN I HATE TENNESSEE!!! I don't have anyone to kiss! LOL) but anyways, I'm not saying it will play out entirely like my hellish relationship did, but I don't want it to go ANYWHERE near that road, you know? So i just want you two to find a common ground on these sort of things, don't let one just become the slave and one the master

(AGAIN: STEPFORD WIVES... Somewhere in that movie is the point I'm not really but sorta trying to make!)

Ummm you know I suck at writing, and I may have gotten somewhere off topic, but if you have any question as to my logic and reasoning on this PLEEEEEASE question me. BUT Do it to my face. Don't justbe angry and not talk about it. Thats our problem now, WE ARENT TALKING TOGETHER.
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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 11:05pm on November 30th, 2008
still wonderin how this became about ashley. im not knockin the input, its just interesting. interesting enough to get me commenting on my own note which RARELY happens. but keep it up. im sure ashley will be intrigued
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 11:10pm on November 30th, 2008
LMFAO I TOLD YOU I SUCK AT WRITING!!!

I think this is a spin off of the things we talked about earlier, I been keepin it bottled in all day, that on top of my own problems, but then again I dont really have any problems i just found that to be the right thing to say at the moment (lol that was funny, lighten up im kidding!) but i have no idea where ashley comes into this, I just had some stuff to get off my mind. YOU ME HER YAHOO CONVERSATIONAL CHAT THINGY... i have no idea when though, but one day we'll do that, IF this problem doesn't get resolved.
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 11:17pm on November 30th, 2008
PS: we settled that one about Charlotte today. It's a big city with about the same amount of people as Chicago. DON'T knock Charlotte JUST because it's in north carolina aka the country. I mean... the biggest difference would probably be that it's a hick version of Chicago... if it was full of rednecks. I can't believe I would say such a thing about my own beloved State LMAO But i can't front, THEY HAVE A DAMN NASCAR TRACK!!! They're hick as fuck. LOL

Charlotte Motor Speedway 500 or some bullshit, Ricky Bobby lived in some hick part of North Carolina in Talladega Nights (Look at his drivers license in the movie. Plus when they annouce Cal at the end his says that cal's from some place in NC too. Cal and Ricky "grew up" together. Shake n Bake), although TALLADEGA is a Nascar Track in ALABAMA lol it said that in the movie, but it is SO lame that I know that. I just watched Talladega Nights like yesterday. And I love that movie, its hilarious, SO SUE ME
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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 11:17pm on November 30th, 2008
i hope she doesnt take EVERYONES comments into consideration, because if she did that i definitely think she would be mad. ur the only one who is really talking about me and her

but maybe im tweakin. maybe im not but somethings gotta change
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 11:26pm on November 30th, 2008
Yes I agree. Something does. All I ask it that MORE COMMUNICATION on IMPORTANT DECISIONS be made, and that YOU don't end up making all the SACRIFICES...

Oh my god, do you know I sat here for like 10 minutes trying to think of that word like 2 comments ago? So i just started saying shit that basically would've been simplier if I just used to word SACRIFICE rather than basically explaining what a sacrifice is... ummm this part:

"I'm not saying that she does deserve it, but i'm saying that the key to a happy relationship is sometimes submission to the desires and needs of the other. It can't always be Donny give and ashie recieves. Eventually you're going to either A: become soft like baby shit or B: grow tired of it and eventually start hating ashie :( we don't want that, so basically we have to treat this while there is still time. How do you guys deal when it's a situation where you have to give up..."

Somewhere in there I was supposed to use the word sacrifice...

Ok off topic again, nice one Kristal.....
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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 11:30pm on November 30th, 2008
actually u couldve avoided that whole paragraph by sayin sacrice lol

its ok tho i still love u lol
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 11:36pm on November 30th, 2008
See? Thats what I mean. I take the long way sometimes. Thats why i'm like 7 in a 20 year old's stunning dazzling body :]

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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 11:38pm on November 30th, 2008
haha see i think im rubbin off on u. thats definitely a don statement
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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote
at 1:18am on December 1st, 2008
LMFAO @ my don-ness
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Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote
at 1:19am on December 1st, 2008
lol

Vol. 24: Race Matters

you know, in the midst of all of the jubilation following the recent election of Barack Obama, i guess i let my guard down to the real ignorance not only of whites but of my own people. in the two decades of my existence i have seen many things, as im sure alot of you, my peers, have witnessed as well, the greatest being this new era in american history. however, i would have thought that this unprecedented event would have reached a grand audience, or at least the people i thought would get the message.

i think alot of people fail to grasp the fact that, while he embraces his black culture, Barack Obama is actually mixed--his father black, and his mother white. yes he is a black man, but i think that people only acknowledged him as a black man because he did first. remember when people couldnt figure out what to classify him as; first he wasnt black enough, but when people realized that he had a real shot of winning, then he was fine (to us) or too black (to whites)

the point is he is both. u cannot just lump him into a category simply because its convenient for u. and if u are going to do that, then follow his example. dont continue to add fuel to the stereotypical fire that has plagued our race since the end of the Civil Rights Movement

there is one other thing that i want to touch upon. something related to the topic at hand. does it really matter that i "profess my love" to a white girl? would it make u feel better about urself if she was black? even hispanic? well technically she is mixed, but nobody seems to care enough about that. kinda like they dont wanna realize that Barack Obama is mixed. but theres a real question for u. what would happen if Barack had married a white woman? i mean he would be completely within his right, both as a partially white male and as a free american, to do so. but would he have had the same support from the black community that he received? would it have made him any less of a black man if she was Marianne instead of Michelle? does the color of her skin really matter that much, even if he loved her just the same? because that seems to be the stereotypical view of black men in america--the second someone says family, were out the door. im not knocking their relationship, i think that its a beautiful thing to see two successful educated black professionals with a genuinely real love for each other. but it just gets the gears turning to wonder if the popularity would be the same if she was blonde with blue eyes

now personally, i would love the opportunity to marry a strong black woman. ive written about this before. theres nothing more beautiful than a black couple in love and living happily ever after. if i hadnt met ashley and if i wasnt so convinced of our future together i would love to call a black woman my wife. however, circumstances and experiences have led me to ashley. someone who is strong, determined, and loves me. and personally, i dont give two fucks who has a problem with it. i dont care if ive known u for twenty minutes or twenty years, what u say about me and the people i talk to does not matter to me. im only writing about it because whenever people dont know how to insult me, they use that, and quite frankly, its pathetic. u could be just a little more creative than to say "you talk to white girls" because thats not the case. i talk to LADIES. it just happened that this lady is white...and mexican. oh u didnt know that? maybe u should pay attention next time because i dont know too many 17 year old white girls that are fluent in spanish (check her note to me and my note to her for reference....completely en espanol). if she was blue with a purple head, id love her the same. to be honest i dont even pay attention to the color of her skin. but its always the people who dont matter who do. so i will put it lightly, for everyone who has anything wrong with an unorthodox relationship....dont have one. u dont like gay marriage...dont marry one but how dare you criticize the love they share because it doesnt register in ur narrow minded train of thought. so the next time u have the audacity to look down upon anyone because of their relationship, make sure u have a healthy one urself. the next time u allow ur children or ur nieces and nephews to make fun of a biracial child, consider this...everytime they demean that child, they are demeaning our president.

till next time peace, love, and eternal jazzyness

iloveyou sweetness.

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Michele Nycole Hubbard-Smith (Chicago, IL) wrote at 6:54am on November 18th, 2008 Ok....this is actually true. the only people actually worried about these race and gender lines are the ones who dont count. and thex get offended when true happiness thrives in a not so fairy tale situation Report - Delete

Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote at 3:52pm on November 18th, 2008 Wow love, I never thought people were still THAT ignorant in this day and time about mixed relationships.... Report - Delete

Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote at 3:52pm on November 18th, 2008 No, i said that wrong, People shouldnt be ignorant, AT ALL

Vol. 23: Faith and Reason Part Duex

for most of my conscience life i have put reason above all. i have listened to education, theory and science to guide my mind and spirit. i never let others influence my path; nobody was stupid enough to try. however as i have grown older, and experienced more of what life has to offer, i have found myself flip flopping between this and faith. if u read in my last installment, i said that faith was he guiding force of my life now. that i had to put trust in other things, because reason had let me down so many times before. thats not necessarily true. faith, like reason, has had its ups and downs. it has nurtured me when need be, but it has also made me its bitch. the one good thing about both tho is that they have help me find a balance in their balance. wait no, lemme say that again

because i have learned to not favor reason or faith over one another, i have found a calm in my life. when something i put faith in doesnt come thru, i dont get disheartened and loss my trust. i try to understand why it failed. there is no point in crying over spilled milk. but there is no point in not showing emotion because u made a mistake.

if this doesnt make sense then u werent meant to read it. but it was meant for one person in particular.

i support u. so does he. dont ever doubt that. but i have very little faith in the location uve picked. i dont want u to just agree with us for the sake of it. he want u to go where there is opportunity. somewhere u could live the life u have ALWAYS talked about; the fast paced, high maintenance life uve dreamed of. he just thinks now that ur on the eve of that revolution, ur second guessing yourself; ur thinking that its better to play it safe and live where u can control whats going on.

life is not meant to be controlled. sometimes, shit happenes. u said that urself, but thats no reason to not do something. ur not going to always be able to control ur surroundings, especially where ur planning on going; i just made the suggestion that moving with your love would be a better move because there is a wider spectrum of resources and opportunity. u would have a wider career map, in every kind of industry imaginable. u would make more money, and u would have a higher and diverse class of clients to choose from. yes the standard of living would be higher, but u would be making more money at a faster rate than u would if u maintained ur decision. check it out this way

minimum wage (which i guarantee u would make more than) is going to be nearly 9 bucks. 3 bucks more per hour than ur choice (researched it). gas is going down = food is going down; clothing is going down. service prices are going down. all of these necessities are steadily becoming more affordable at the same time wages are increasing. now granted the sales tax is a tad bit higher than most, but considering all other variables, thats still not bad

now u said that it would be easier for him to downgrade rather than for u to upgrade, and i say thats not true. once ur used to something, u dont wanna lower ur standards. hes lived this fast paced, hectic, city lifestyle his entire life; hes only seen the stars once; hes never seen more than a mile of trees, and hes accustomed to light pollution. i can tell u right now that its not going to be easy at all for someone whos lived that kinda life, and u know that because uve noticed how hectic his life is

now im being unbiased, and i do understand that it would be considerably hard for u to just pick up and move into his environment especially because ur still very young and ur moving somewhere uve never been. its extremely scary. u know ill give u a perfect example just to give u another view of things

last year when i went to florida. i was in a strange place i had only visited once. i had no prospect for a job, and my closest relative was 3 hours away driving. all the odds were against me. but i went there because i thought that it was the best place for me to be because i thought it had the most opportunities. i had FAITH that i would be alright. i was supposed to go to an entirely different school, but because i felt that it was the best place, i went. everyone knows how that went. but it was an experience. yea it wasnt what i expected but it was worth it because my faith sent me off, i reasoned with myself and i am stronger because of it.

now back to this situation. i understand both sides. but i dont think that u should rule out his side because u think that he just wants u to move in with him, because from what ive seen and heard, thats not the case. in my opinion, i think that u should move somewhere else because i dont think that ull be satisfied if u stayed there. u will always be wanting more but because u wouldnt be able to go anywhere else ull be stuck in that rut forever, whereas if u move to his town, the opportunity is great, the resources are seemingly endless, and the atmosphere is something uve always wanted, and he knows these things for a fact

no matter where u move, he will always support u, i know that. he may not always agree because hes a stubborn jackass (just like u...maybe thats why yall love each other) hell always be there for u. but he--we are just trying to look out for u. we both have alot of experience dealing with new places, people and circumstances and were trying to help u before u do something u cant take back. in the end its up to u. im just trying to give my input.

but all of this allpies to everyone who reads this. dont hold urself back. dont let reason stop u from experiencing the fullness life has to offer.

anyway, till next time peace love and eternal jazzyness

iloveyou sweetness

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Ashley Sisson (Charlotte, NC) wrote at 9:06am on November 14th, 2008 my decision still holds. Report - Delete

Alex Banks Fleites (Loyola Academy) wrote at 3:54pm on November 14th, 2008 s-t-u-b-b-o-r-n Report - Delete

Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote at 1:49pm on November 15th, 2008 I'm Lost.... So My Comment is this: ????? Report - Delete

Margarite Garner (Spelman) wrote at 2:47pm on November 15th, 2008 i just wanna know when do u study? do homework? any of the above? Report - Delete

Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote at 3:13pm on November 15th, 2008 Love _____ HW And I agree with that equation Report - Delete

Donavan Blankman MadDawg Williams wrote at 4:25pm on November 15th, 2008 i do do my homework. i just dont get the same amount of projects as u would at a four year so i have a lil more free time Delete

Margarite Garner (Spelman) wrote at 4:27pm on November 15th, 2008 umm.....u was doing the same shit at the four year...so my question still remains

Vol. 22: Faith and Reason

once again, circumstance and experienced has inspired me to write a note. today at church, my pastor was talking about a retired Colonel and he asked my pastor why Christians have faith. that people should go back to the old days of reasoning.

my argument is this: faith and reasoning go hand in hand. think about it this way. u pay attention to science, statistics and all of that. u research and come to ur own conclusions. but my question is: what is a conclusion but having faith that u are correct? what is faith but the conclusion that u come to?

now the only real difference between faith and reasoning is that faith, i think, is taking more of a risk. ur letting go of intellect, science and everything thats telling you not to do something, and listening to ur heart. listening to what u want, not what others tell u u want. and to be perfectly honest, i would choose that over anything else. life is boring if u always play it safe. its boring if u dont get out and experience new things, or think in a different light. its boring if u always do what ur told instead of doing what u want. now granted, its good to take the advice of others, but ultimately, i dont believe anyone can be happy just staying in a single minded nook that others provide their whole lives.

reasoning on the other hand is when u calculate. everything has to be perfect or u wont do it. life isnt perfect. life isnt always the way u want it to be. but its more rewarding if u take a chance just to see what happens instead of not doin it simply because ur scared of the "what if" factor. well for all the intellectuals, my question is if u hate what ifs, what if u regret not doing something. what if, because u got in the way of urself u missed out on a potentially gratifying experience.
and yea. it may not turn out the way u want. the point is u tried. there is no penalty for trying. there is no consequence for taking a chance.

no one is sure of what the future will bring, which is why u take risk. which is why u have faith in others and in urself that the decisions that you make will be good. and if not, just wake up tomorrow and keep it moving. its faith that determines our purpose in life, because facts and statistics are only numbers. theres no real substance other than what u see. so u need faith.

i dont know if my Chronicles of Randomness drive people insane, but i have faith that my friends take interest in me and know that being random is what i do

i dont know if my MILFs offend people (and i really dont care) but i have faith that people will open their minds and consider a different train of thought.

i dont know if writing Always Absolutely Something will get me anywhere, or if it will destroy my dating life outside of ashley. but i have faith that i will spend the rest of my life with her

faith is what drives me daily to do what i do. faith that i woke up for a reason. faith that i missed the bus because it may crash. reasoning is only what drives my intellect. not my life.

but thats just me.

till next time peace, love and eternal jazzyness

iloveyou sweetness.

Vol. 20: Chivalry

The Dodo....extinct.
The Tyrannosaurus...extinct.
The Gentleman...extinct.

today has been a really interesting day, and to be perfectly honest, i think god put me in all of these situations knowing that my disappointment would make me write about it. it is more than disappointment but a feeling of shame. shame that men nowadays have lost the sense of what it means to be a man.

situation #1: today i was at oak brook mall with my mom and a friend of hers. it was kinda chilly outside so most everyone had a jacket on. now we were in the parking lot and this couple was walking from their car. the lady was trying to put her coat on, but she couldnt quite get her arm around to get it in the sleeve. the man, fully coated, continued walking and talking. finally the woman gave up because they had made it to the store before she got her coat on.

situation #2: i was on my way to meet alex to go to home run inn. i was on the red line and there was a couple sitting to my left on the other side of the doors (my chicago folks know what im talking about). the man was sitting on the outside seat. they got up to get off and he gets out of his seat and walks to the woman, leaving her there to move over and walk to the door behind him

situation #3: at home run inn, i was sitting facing the side door that leads out to 31st. there was a couple getting ready to leave. the guy gets up, walks with the lady, but walks out first and lets the door nearly close on her

come on now ppl. i know that times change, but being a gentleman stretches back hundreds of years. and u would think that chicago, having such southern roots, would have more of a ladies first mentality

i understand that not everyone grows up with a father in the home, but thats no excuse. i didnt just wake up one day and say to myself "i think that im going to start holding the door open for women today' no. i dont know when i learned it, or who i learned it from (definitely wasnt my father), but doing things like that come naturally to me, and they should to every other male on this planet. its extremely rude and disrespectful to do anything of the sort. i mean women are the strongest fragile things in the world. the least u can do is hold a door open.

thats probably my biggest pet peeve. i hate seeing it. i swear if my son did anything like that, id kick his ass even if he was 60 years old. men just dont do that. its like an unwritten rule. ladies dont go first when its convenient for u. they go first thru doors, they sit down first, u help them before u help urself. and people think im weird because i hold doors open for people. when did being polite become weird?

i would think that helping a lady with her coat would be a given to hug her and kiss her. at least thats what i would do. if i helped ashley with her coat id slip it on and wrap my arms around her in one full motion. u cant get smoother than that. but i guess people dont think like that. which is a shame, because i think marriages would last alot longer if men would show their wives a little respect. just those little things can give ur children endless amounts of knowledge of what to expect and what to do when with the opposite sex

and women. dont lower ur standards for a guy who isnt a gentleman. if he walks thru the door before u (and its not an accident) call him out on it, dont just settle for whats there because its there because if u dont check him on it, itll continue to happen. guys, get used to openin her car door, and standing up when she gets back to the table, and helping her out of the car because that one little act of consideration will put a smile on her face. i know cuz its happened to me.

just some thoughts to consider

till next time peace love and eternal jazzyness

iloveyou sweetness.

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Alex Banks Fleites (Loyola Academy) wrote at 10:09pm on November 2nd, 2008 what if the women is a transvestite...