The Dodo....extinct.
The Tyrannosaurus...extinct.
The Gentleman...extinct.
today has been a really interesting day, and to be perfectly honest, i think god put me in all of these situations knowing that my disappointment would make me write about it. it is more than disappointment but a feeling of shame. shame that men nowadays have lost the sense of what it means to be a man.
situation #1: today i was at oak brook mall with my mom and a friend of hers. it was kinda chilly outside so most everyone had a jacket on. now we were in the parking lot and this couple was walking from their car. the lady was trying to put her coat on, but she couldnt quite get her arm around to get it in the sleeve. the man, fully coated, continued walking and talking. finally the woman gave up because they had made it to the store before she got her coat on.
situation #2: i was on my way to meet alex to go to home run inn. i was on the red line and there was a couple sitting to my left on the other side of the doors (my chicago folks know what im talking about). the man was sitting on the outside seat. they got up to get off and he gets out of his seat and walks to the woman, leaving her there to move over and walk to the door behind him
situation #3: at home run inn, i was sitting facing the side door that leads out to 31st. there was a couple getting ready to leave. the guy gets up, walks with the lady, but walks out first and lets the door nearly close on her
come on now ppl. i know that times change, but being a gentleman stretches back hundreds of years. and u would think that chicago, having such southern roots, would have more of a ladies first mentality
i understand that not everyone grows up with a father in the home, but thats no excuse. i didnt just wake up one day and say to myself "i think that im going to start holding the door open for women today' no. i dont know when i learned it, or who i learned it from (definitely wasnt my father), but doing things like that come naturally to me, and they should to every other male on this planet. its extremely rude and disrespectful to do anything of the sort. i mean women are the strongest fragile things in the world. the least u can do is hold a door open.
thats probably my biggest pet peeve. i hate seeing it. i swear if my son did anything like that, id kick his ass even if he was 60 years old. men just dont do that. its like an unwritten rule. ladies dont go first when its convenient for u. they go first thru doors, they sit down first, u help them before u help urself. and people think im weird because i hold doors open for people. when did being polite become weird?
i would think that helping a lady with her coat would be a given to hug her and kiss her. at least thats what i would do. if i helped ashley with her coat id slip it on and wrap my arms around her in one full motion. u cant get smoother than that. but i guess people dont think like that. which is a shame, because i think marriages would last alot longer if men would show their wives a little respect. just those little things can give ur children endless amounts of knowledge of what to expect and what to do when with the opposite sex
and women. dont lower ur standards for a guy who isnt a gentleman. if he walks thru the door before u (and its not an accident) call him out on it, dont just settle for whats there because its there because if u dont check him on it, itll continue to happen. guys, get used to openin her car door, and standing up when she gets back to the table, and helping her out of the car because that one little act of consideration will put a smile on her face. i know cuz its happened to me.
just some thoughts to consider
till next time peace love and eternal jazzyness
iloveyou sweetness.
The Tyrannosaurus...extinct.
The Gentleman...extinct.
today has been a really interesting day, and to be perfectly honest, i think god put me in all of these situations knowing that my disappointment would make me write about it. it is more than disappointment but a feeling of shame. shame that men nowadays have lost the sense of what it means to be a man.
situation #1: today i was at oak brook mall with my mom and a friend of hers. it was kinda chilly outside so most everyone had a jacket on. now we were in the parking lot and this couple was walking from their car. the lady was trying to put her coat on, but she couldnt quite get her arm around to get it in the sleeve. the man, fully coated, continued walking and talking. finally the woman gave up because they had made it to the store before she got her coat on.
situation #2: i was on my way to meet alex to go to home run inn. i was on the red line and there was a couple sitting to my left on the other side of the doors (my chicago folks know what im talking about). the man was sitting on the outside seat. they got up to get off and he gets out of his seat and walks to the woman, leaving her there to move over and walk to the door behind him
situation #3: at home run inn, i was sitting facing the side door that leads out to 31st. there was a couple getting ready to leave. the guy gets up, walks with the lady, but walks out first and lets the door nearly close on her
come on now ppl. i know that times change, but being a gentleman stretches back hundreds of years. and u would think that chicago, having such southern roots, would have more of a ladies first mentality
i understand that not everyone grows up with a father in the home, but thats no excuse. i didnt just wake up one day and say to myself "i think that im going to start holding the door open for women today' no. i dont know when i learned it, or who i learned it from (definitely wasnt my father), but doing things like that come naturally to me, and they should to every other male on this planet. its extremely rude and disrespectful to do anything of the sort. i mean women are the strongest fragile things in the world. the least u can do is hold a door open.
thats probably my biggest pet peeve. i hate seeing it. i swear if my son did anything like that, id kick his ass even if he was 60 years old. men just dont do that. its like an unwritten rule. ladies dont go first when its convenient for u. they go first thru doors, they sit down first, u help them before u help urself. and people think im weird because i hold doors open for people. when did being polite become weird?
i would think that helping a lady with her coat would be a given to hug her and kiss her. at least thats what i would do. if i helped ashley with her coat id slip it on and wrap my arms around her in one full motion. u cant get smoother than that. but i guess people dont think like that. which is a shame, because i think marriages would last alot longer if men would show their wives a little respect. just those little things can give ur children endless amounts of knowledge of what to expect and what to do when with the opposite sex
and women. dont lower ur standards for a guy who isnt a gentleman. if he walks thru the door before u (and its not an accident) call him out on it, dont just settle for whats there because its there because if u dont check him on it, itll continue to happen. guys, get used to openin her car door, and standing up when she gets back to the table, and helping her out of the car because that one little act of consideration will put a smile on her face. i know cuz its happened to me.
just some thoughts to consider
till next time peace love and eternal jazzyness
iloveyou sweetness.
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