So I think its about that time i speak on the negativity that Non Norm relationships entail. now ur probably wondering what a "non norm" relationship is. well my dear readers, a non norm relationship is one that is not the cliche stepford relationship. this includes, but is not excluded to: interracial, interreligious, and same sex. while i think this is going to open up a disasterously negative can of worms, i think it needs to be said because, while you may not agree with the circumstances, you cannot deny two ppl their primal nature of attraction.
this primal nature does not mean that everyone in the community should have a say in the matter because, everybody in the community doesnt have to potential spend their life with the person. the days of arranged marriages are long since gone in the major populous. moreover, when it really comes down to it ppl that would qualify as making the other have of a "normal" relationship understand that and understand the social pressure of engaging in a normal relationship and, in turn, dog the shit out of the spouse. and ive seen it in every way shape and form. ppl are attracted to what they dont know. the greater parts of the world were established on exploration and experimentaion.
now ur probably wondering what madetackle such an issue. a few things actually did. first, a friend of mine was telling me how she and her gf would always get side glances as they walked the streets of tallahassee. she wanted to know if i was interested in being a straight mind in a tallahassee gay/straight allainace. i told her not only was i interested in being a member, but i wanted to actively participate in the propaganda. i casually told my mom about the plain, and she was astonished at the fact that i was going to be a part of such a thing. that she never "thought a man of god would participate in something like this" now i respect my moms opinion 100% because she has the right to do and to say whatever she wants. but i just think its funny how ppl, especially my people, use the bible to justify homophobia, particularly because my people understand the struggle and what it means to be afraid to express yourself opinion for fear of persecution. and perhaps the biggest shock to me is that the excuse that homosexuality is forbidden in the bible is the exact same thing whites said about blacks: that it was writtien by god that blacks were to be inferior to, and were to serve whites. and yet, we continue to judge others solely on this fact, when we need to be focusing on reconstructing our communities and making sure our boys stay in school and out of prison.
the second thing that compelled me to write tonight is the fact that integration, for the most part, is a nationally cherished and accepted trait. however, it just boggles my mind at how interracial relationships are still looked down on. ive heard it all from all races: "they dont deserve that trash" "they always tryin to steal our men/women" now im not trying to call out anyone or point the finger because i hate it from all angles; white, black; male and female but last time i checked, you dogged me (relatively speaking) you you cheated on me; you didnt trust me. and now your surpirsed that ive found someone who enjoys my company? does it matter if she/he doesnt look like me? i mean ive (me that is)had shitty relationships in all situations, from FWB to crushes, but out of all 8 of my previous relationships (1 white, 2 hispanic, and 5 black) half of them cheated on me. now it wasnt the white girl and itwas one of the hispanic girls, but the majority of the black girls that did it. i just think its interesting that a real man is wanted and presented to you but then taken advantage of. now im not generalizing and saying all black females do this and im never gonna date another black girl, but i just think its funny that i always have to listen to how black men are all dogs and wone amount to shit, but here i am, a well educated, well mannered male, and i get cheated on. so i ask....are you surpirsed im with a white girl? and its not the fact that shes white, but she makes me happy. but im not trying to get to deep into my personal life. when it comes down to it, im not going to be content with being put down by my own women. im content with looking out for me, and i wouldnt be made if i saw a black woman with a white guy; she found someone to make her happy. more power to you
anyway, this is my opinion. maybe this will promote change. or it may get me strung up by my toenails. in either case, it needed to be said. u know me, i dont care, and im not taking it back. if your mad or offended, please think before you speak because maybe you have been a victim (or perpetrator) of relationship discrimination.
till next time, peace, love and all that jazz
and remember to always rock your body to its CoR!!
this primal nature does not mean that everyone in the community should have a say in the matter because, everybody in the community doesnt have to potential spend their life with the person. the days of arranged marriages are long since gone in the major populous. moreover, when it really comes down to it ppl that would qualify as making the other have of a "normal" relationship understand that and understand the social pressure of engaging in a normal relationship and, in turn, dog the shit out of the spouse. and ive seen it in every way shape and form. ppl are attracted to what they dont know. the greater parts of the world were established on exploration and experimentaion.
now ur probably wondering what madetackle such an issue. a few things actually did. first, a friend of mine was telling me how she and her gf would always get side glances as they walked the streets of tallahassee. she wanted to know if i was interested in being a straight mind in a tallahassee gay/straight allainace. i told her not only was i interested in being a member, but i wanted to actively participate in the propaganda. i casually told my mom about the plain, and she was astonished at the fact that i was going to be a part of such a thing. that she never "thought a man of god would participate in something like this" now i respect my moms opinion 100% because she has the right to do and to say whatever she wants. but i just think its funny how ppl, especially my people, use the bible to justify homophobia, particularly because my people understand the struggle and what it means to be afraid to express yourself opinion for fear of persecution. and perhaps the biggest shock to me is that the excuse that homosexuality is forbidden in the bible is the exact same thing whites said about blacks: that it was writtien by god that blacks were to be inferior to, and were to serve whites. and yet, we continue to judge others solely on this fact, when we need to be focusing on reconstructing our communities and making sure our boys stay in school and out of prison.
the second thing that compelled me to write tonight is the fact that integration, for the most part, is a nationally cherished and accepted trait. however, it just boggles my mind at how interracial relationships are still looked down on. ive heard it all from all races: "they dont deserve that trash" "they always tryin to steal our men/women" now im not trying to call out anyone or point the finger because i hate it from all angles; white, black; male and female but last time i checked, you dogged me (relatively speaking) you you cheated on me; you didnt trust me. and now your surpirsed that ive found someone who enjoys my company? does it matter if she/he doesnt look like me? i mean ive (me that is)had shitty relationships in all situations, from FWB to crushes, but out of all 8 of my previous relationships (1 white, 2 hispanic, and 5 black) half of them cheated on me. now it wasnt the white girl and itwas one of the hispanic girls, but the majority of the black girls that did it. i just think its interesting that a real man is wanted and presented to you but then taken advantage of. now im not generalizing and saying all black females do this and im never gonna date another black girl, but i just think its funny that i always have to listen to how black men are all dogs and wone amount to shit, but here i am, a well educated, well mannered male, and i get cheated on. so i ask....are you surpirsed im with a white girl? and its not the fact that shes white, but she makes me happy. but im not trying to get to deep into my personal life. when it comes down to it, im not going to be content with being put down by my own women. im content with looking out for me, and i wouldnt be made if i saw a black woman with a white guy; she found someone to make her happy. more power to you
anyway, this is my opinion. maybe this will promote change. or it may get me strung up by my toenails. in either case, it needed to be said. u know me, i dont care, and im not taking it back. if your mad or offended, please think before you speak because maybe you have been a victim (or perpetrator) of relationship discrimination.
till next time, peace, love and all that jazz
and remember to always rock your body to its CoR!!
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