Vol. 14: Color Blind

you know, believe it or not, i have an unbiased opinion on interracial dating. im not gonna try to convince the world that IRRs (InterRacial Relationships) are the best thing to ever happen and u should go out and find a person from another race and date them and marry them. but just the same im not gonna beat anyone in an IRR over the head saying that they are a horrible person: cuz that would just be rude, not to mention it would make me a big ass hypocrite. but u know something. there is still, somewhat surprisingly, alot of animosity when it comes to blacks and whites dating. but among all these groups against IRRs, the majority is black women.

now please dont let my words full u. i love anything and everything about a black woman. there are very few things that have the charm, elegance, and class; the strength, mind, and spirit as a sista. however, when it comes to a black man dating a white woman, even the most charming black woman can show a truly ugly spirit. as chris rock said black women hate a black man dating a white woman more than a southern white man.

so why is that. chris made a joke about it, but im really starting to wonder what it is about BMand WW that just rattles ur cages. now, thankfully i havent got any heat because of ashley, but it got me thinkin back; not just with allison, but with every girl ive ever come in close encounters with.in other words, the girls who i started talkin to, or seriously considered talking to. heres the rundown on the hispanic ladies:

one cheated on me
another didnt trust me out of her line of sight.
another just dumped me for no good reason
one OD'd (r.i.p. gina)
and the latest (not u ashley) just wanted the goods

just to point out. ive never been one to hide when im in a relationship, or even seriously talking to someone. i mean whats the point of being in one if ur just gonna keep it to yourselves. so everyone in the world knew about these ladies. but funny thing is i never got any troubles or dirty looks for talking to them or kissing them or holding hands with them. now heres where it gets interesting. here are my sistas:

one cheated on me with my bestfriend (and about 4 of my other friends)

one just wanted the goods

one (and this still pisses me off)found out i liked her and put a restraining order against me

one broke up with me by gettin her brother to hold a gun to my head and tell me not to talk to her anymore

and the latest of the batch was just all around psychotic.

so with a record like that, both black and latina, i thought it was time to try "something new" (hmm...that sounds familiar). but the moment ppl found out i was with allison, i was a traitor. i hated black people. i didnt love my mother. now that, i thought to myself, was just rude. but u know, out of THREE white girls ive talked to in the 10 or so years that girls have got me giddy in my groin, ive never felt more appreciated, or loved by anyone outside of my family. because all i hear around me from my my ppl is "niggas aint shit. all niggas are dawg. imma go find me a white man" but when u see a white girl with a black guy, suddenly the script is flipped. suddenly ur mad cuz "these whites girls stealin our men" hmm....i wasnt ur man 2 years ago when i told u i likedu. i wasnt ur man last week when i asked u out. but suddenly im one of your men? bull.shit.on.that.

so what is it? do u just want black men to urselfs just so u can dog them, even the good ones?help me out. i dont even wanna know for me. i wanna know for all the other brothas who get problems and nasty looks when they walkin with their white girl.

just a thought for ya. oh and if i tagged u, im not labeling u as thinking like this. i just trust u to give me a decent opinion on the circumstances. even to throw a few jokes in there. lol

anyway till next time, peace love and eternal happyness (with whoever u may choose)

get off your AAS and rokk your body to its CoR.

iloveyou sweetness.

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Kristal Nicole (Chattanooga, TN) wrote at 8:53pm on September 28th, 2008 i think everyone should be able to get up off they AAS and rokk they body to the CoR of their choosing. I don't care that you aren't dating someone of your own race, as long as you are happy and being treated right, and I love Ash, she seems like she wants everything you want from life and you two make each other very happy, and i do believe that the American spirit is all about LIFE, LIBERTY and THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS (not the movie) so unless these so called AMERICANS that are such a motherfuckin bully to the rest of the world and are so perfect like we a motherfuckin King of the world ass country and shit, how could they so called call for unity and shit then make a mockery of their own words as stated in the constitution or some shit, whichever document got that... Report - Delete

Ashley Sisson (Charlotte, NC) wrote at 7:48pm on September 29th, 2008 && of course im the token white girl tagged. =] Report - Delete

Deven Rokstarr Mauclair (Missouri) wrote at 10:55am on September 30th, 2008 are you going to put all of these into book form? lol. well as you know this is my area of expertise lol. jp. well about IIRs, im kinda in one. and i have no problem with it. the way i see it is this, honestly there arent a whole lot of good men left out there in our age range, at least if there are they arent in my eyesight, so when i find someone that im attracted to, our personalities mesh, we're good for eachother and especially if we get to the point of loving one another, does it really matter if their skin is a lighter color than mine? a guy in my class said "the is a racist society and blacks need to stick together"-true- but to be honest the way some young black Negroes have been acting lately (why r so many people getting shot?!?!?) i might start claiming to be Asian or something else. i stick with people who are a help and not a hinderance to my life. ok im goin back to bed. lol